Five reasons why you should get married at home

Two of the weddings I have recently had the pleasure of photographing have been in a home; either the couple’s or a family member’s. Both were unique but had several commonalities that made me realize that a wedding at home is such a viable and enticing option!

REASON #1: Save that “Moolah.” The most obvious reason for getting married at home is COST SAVINGS. Wedding venues in Southern California range from 5,000 to 25,000 dollars OR MORE for wedding packages! And with most young couples wanting to pay their own way nowadays, the option to get married at a free venue is enticing to say the least. Why not pocket that money and get a daily massage on your honeymoon? Just throwing that idea out there! OR save the money for a DOWN PAYMENT on your future home! YES. PLEASE.


REASON #2: Early set up/Late tear down. Most wedding venues are limited by time. They therefore put time restrictions on couples and charge you if your time goes over. OUCH. When you get married in a home, you are able to set up WEEKS in advance. This can ease some of the pre-wedding tension as you see your ideas come into place much sooner. There is also no crazy aunt chasing you with a bill when you go over your time-limit by four hours because you were carelessly partying the night away. Or maybe there will be…


REASON #3: Locality. Everyone knows where the venue is! Family can stay in a home before or after the ceremony which makes it suuper easy for any patron or matrons in the family.


REASON #4: Relaxed atmosphere. If you want to rest on your bed for a moment, or scarf down a pre-wedding pizza in the kitchen you totally can! You also have the freedom to move around as you please as some venues restrict certain areas.


REASON #5: Privacy and intimacy. I’ve been to golf-course weddings (that are so gorgeous in their own right) that had other ceremonies happening AND golfers oogling while the bride and groom were getting ready for their first kiss. It’s YOUR DAY. You shouldn’t have to share your special moment with Mister Par-three and his High School caddy. You also will always have this venue to remember every detail of your special day long after it is over…


One big reason why people don’t opt to get married at home is PARKING. Ninety cars can’t fit in Mom’s cul-de-sac, I get that. BUT why not have people park in a nearby lot and have a couple friends offer to shuttle people to your house? Just an idea…

Let this idea simmer! But ultimately, your wedding will be beautiful no matter what you decide because its YOURS.


See you through my lens!





Vessel filled with sand

Blended with shifting and swaying

The sands were once separated

By colors and differences

Now they are inseparable


Vessel filled with impossibility

Only a perfect God could make

Two different souls

United as one flesh

Bound together in grace and love.


Vessel filed with love

Together we’ll always be

One color, stronger together

Blended, not broken

For many more years to come.   

Don't look away

Don’t look away

O’ you selfish world

Wrought with war, evil, decay.


Don’t look away

From their heads, all curled

Children who will not see another day.


Don’t look away

With just a saddened heart

Unmoved to be with them in the fray.


Don’t look away

To your world of color and art,

Your children full of laughter and play.


Don’t look away

Never again to see their tender faces

To which our God would say


“Don’t look away,

For you I have abounding graces,

Come to heaven with me today.”



Jesus said, "Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these." Matthew 19:14



Photo courtesy of NBC news

The Arms I am in

While playing in the front yard a couple nights ago, my husband grabbed my camera and snapped a couple photos of my daughter and I. It is amazing to me just how much those simple photos meant to me. They are not perfect. Not because the photographer was lacking in skill, but because the subject is haggerred, clearly tired, and no make-up masks the mommy-dark circles that encompass the eyes. But that matters very little. I love this photo. You can see my daughter's chubby hands, dark colored eyes, bald head and fair skin.  You can also see her trust of me holding her sideways and almost upside-down. She cares very little. She loves the arms she is in. I love photography because it captures pure moments like this. The trust and love between a mother and a child. I actually learned some valuable lessons about myself by looking at this photo. 

1. She trusts me. 

That seems obvious. But she trusts ME. I am frail. I am weak. Prone to wander. And she trusts me.

This made me think about how I trust. And WHO I trust. 

My Everlasting Father, El Roi, El Shaddai, Holy Eternal God; HE is worth trusting. And yet I don't. I don't trust. Like a child, I wrestle out of His loving arms and tell an all-knowing God that my way is better planned, thought out and safer. That I know best. This limited, emotional, imperfect human knows better than the Creator. How dare I?

This cannot be. 

2. I love my daughter. 

I hope that is obvious from this photo as well. She is my treasure. She is one of the three greatest treasures of my soul that the Lord has given me. I would do anything for her, her brother and her dad. I would give my life for them. 

And yet. 

God loves more deeply than I ever could. As a mother, that is difficult to admit. But yes, my love for her is not eternal, as deep, perfect or selfless as my Heavenly Father's love for her. Or as His love is for me. 

I have to learn to trust the arms that I am in. You'd think I would have this down after knowing the Lord for 10 years. But no. I do not. I wriggle free from His tenderness and demand my own way. 

No, knowing the Lord is not always safe. He often carefully leads us to places that force our trust in Him. 

I need Him. I need His love. I need to trust Him. 

He is perfect. He is good. He is loving. 

Psalm 91:1

He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High
will abide in the shadow of the Almighty.
I will say to the LORD, “My refuge and my fortress,
my God, in whom I trust.”

*El Roi- The God who sees

*El Shaddai- God Almighty